You may have heard of something called the “law of attraction” which many say is the most powerful law in the universe.
We attract people who are like us. This is why people who believe that they aren’t good enough attract other who support that belief. When you don’t have enough self-confidence, you will attract people who either match that feeling. Therefore, it’s important for you to first work on yourself before you work on attracting the right person into your life.
If you think that all men are bad, then you will attract men that are bad, same applies for women.
What Can You Do to Attract the Right Person?
1. Be Who You Want to Attract
If you want someone who has his act together, get your act together first. If you want a person who is happy, has a life, is loyal and true, you be the same. You need to be and have those things in your life first.
The way it works is that you attract what you are feeling now. You create your reality by feeling as if you already have what you want before you have it.
If you decide that you’re not going to be happy until the person of your dreams manifests, you will end up waiting forever. But if you work on becoming the best version of yourself now, the right person will naturally be attracted to how happy you are.
2. Be Self-Confident
Self confidence is a great attractor. If you want to attract a person who is self-confident, don’t you think he would want the same thing in a partner? Self-confidence shows that you value yourself, that you are not afraid to go after what you want in life, and that you have a general positive view of yourself and life.
Self-confidence is something you need to cultivate within yourself. The way to build self-confidence is to stop saying any negative thoughts to yourself and replace them with positive thoughts. Another way to build self-confidence is to do things that you want to do but have been afraid to do in the past.
One of the keys to building self-confidence is not caring what other people think anymore. If, for example, you’re a great singer, but you’re afraid to try to sing for a friend, family or in a public setting, try not to be afraid of what people might say. Do it anyway! Sing anyway. Stop caring what others think and do the things that you were afraid of before. Life is too short to be worried or fearful of what others think.
3. Keep Growing
Both men and women sometimes make the mistake of getting into a relationship and losing who they really are – they put their own life on hold to support the other. If you give up all of your own dreams in life for someone, you will end up full of resentment and eventually leave the person.
The point is to be careful not to stop your own life for anybody. You both should pursue what you want in life, and if the relationship works out, great! If it doesn’t, then that’s great too because it means that you are clearer as to what you want in a relationship.
The best relationships are when he honors, respects, and supports your own path in life, and you do the same thing for him. Don’t stop living your life just because he came into yours.
4. Be Independent
You are already 100% complete. If you’re not 100% complete right now, then take a little more time to work on yourself before you get into a relationship.
The best relationships happen when both partners are whole and complete first.
5. Pretend He’s Already Here
How would you feel if the person of your dreams was already here? How would you act? How much happier would you be then?
Neville Goddard was a popular self-help author and he said that to manifest what you want; you have to create the feeling of the wish fulfilled before it could come. Although he was mainly focused on material things and money, this concept can be applied to relationships too.
Put Yourself Out There and Meet Great People
A social dance evening is a great place to meet the right person. At Adelance’s we take the extra step for both men and women to meet one another in a safe and fun setting. Our social dance evenings attract the right type of people.
At Adelance, we take the stress out of helping men and women attract the right partners.
Come to a dance evening and easily find the right person!