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How to Know if a Guy is Serious About You

Finally, you think that you’ve met the right guy. He’s everything that you ever wanted in a man, but he gives you mixed signals, and you’re not sure if he’s serious about your relationship. You talk to your girlfriends. Some tell you to hang in there and some tell you to move on. 

Is he serious about the relationship or are you just wasting your time?  

Fortunately, there are signs that can quickly let you know which guys you should invest your time in and which you should cut off.

7 Signs To Tell if a Guy Is Serious About You 

1. He Listens to You

If a guy is serious about you, he will really listen and he won’t take anything you say for granted.

You should be able to easily tell if he really listens. Does he pay attention to you when you talk? Does he ask clarifying questions to make sure he understands fully? And does he make you feel heard? 

Listening is a skill. And if your guy is doing his best to improve that skill, then he probably is serious about the relationship. If you have your doubts, then look for other signs if he’s serious or not. 

2. He Makes Future Plans

If you see that he makes plans for the future with you, that’s a really good sign. And, of course, the further out the plans, the better. What that means is that he expects you and him to still be in a relationship and that there is a future for both of you together.

Pay attention to the type of plans he makes. Is the trend getting more and more involved? Do the plans involve more time together than before? Is he spending more money with every new plan that he makes with you? These are all other good signs. 

3. He Checks Up on You

If your guy hasn’t heard from you in a while, he should text or call you just to check in on you to see how you’re doing.

He may start to get a little worried that something is wrong or that you’re losing interest.

Don’t ignore him too much or he may start to think that something is really wrong and decide that you’re the one who is not that serious about the relationship. 

4. He Helps You with Any Problem

Guys like to fix things, and it’s often their way of showing that they care. If you tell him about a problem that you’re having and he offers a solution, that’s his way of showing you that he cares and is serious about you. 

When a guy cares about a woman, he naturally wants to take care of her. He wants to do everything he can to show her that he loves her even without saying it. So, if you have problems that he is always helping you solve or at least offers help, chances are, he’s pretty serious about you.

If he doesn’t show any interest in helping you with problems that you have, it usually means that he’s either a bit on the selfish side or that he’s not all that serious about the relationship. 

5. He Makes You a Priority

If your guy cancels things that he has planned in order to be with you, it means that you are a priority to him.  

Of course, he may occasionally have an emergency that takes priority, such as engine problems with his car he must fix on the weekend before going to work on Monday. In that case, be understanding and supportive, and he’ll really appreciate it.

If your guy is serious about the relationship, usually, he will go out of his way to make you a priority. He will plan things with you for the weekend and during the week too. The bottom line is, if he makes you a priority in his life, then you can be rest assured that he’s pretty serious.

6. He Does Thoughtful Things

Does he remember your birthday? Does he ever surprise you with thoughtful gifts that took effort on his part? Does he remember the date of your first date? If he does thoughtful things like that, he’s pretty serious about you… 

Any time that a guy does thoughtful things for a girl, it’s a great sign that he’s serious. It means that when you’re not around, he’s thinking about you. Not only is he thinking about you, but also, he cares enough about you and your life to make things better. 

7. He Introduces You to His Friends

When a guy introduces you to his friends, that’s a pretty serious step for him. He isn’t going to introduce you if he has doubts about you, or if he thinks they won’t like you. 

Introducing you to his friends is the step just before introducing you to his parents and family. It’s a pretty big deal and it’s a good sign that he’s serious. 

Where to Find Guys Who Are Serious About Women 

Adelance’s social dance evenings attract good guys who want to learn how to treat a woman right. We teach men how to approach women and how to tell when they are interested or not. We also teach women how to let men know when they are interested and when they are not. And we do it all in a fun and light atmosphere.

There really isn’t any better way that we can think of in order for women to meet men, and men to meet women.

When you’re dancing with a man, even for only a few minutes, you’ll know how interested he is in you. Both men and women can say what they want, but body language doesn’t lie.

Take all of the stress out of meeting men and come to a dance evening!